Why is so much emphasis given to beauty? Isn't it well known that beauty is only skin deep and that all of us will come to a stage where we all get old and loose the physical beauty? Didn't we all study this in school and bring this message to life?
So much emphasis is given to beauty because of the media. If you are a fair woman, you are beautiful. Look at all the bollywood and kollywood stars. They are all fair and beautiful. For ages, this has been the case. In these movies, its okay to have a dark complexioned hero as he is called "black beauy". But the Indian media cannot accept dark complexioned heroines. This has been going on for ages and now, I have reached a point that this is not life and this is not realistic.
In reality Indian women are generally tanned or dark complexioned. If the film or TV chooses dark complexioned women, they are usually portrayed as someone who is disadvantaged because she is dark complexioned and is not needed by anyone. She will never be a heroine but holds a sister character or an aunty who is single and even when she is married, her husband seeks other woman because she is ugly.
When will Indian society change it's mindset in thinking that being dark is indeed beautiful? I have seen many dark complexioned women who are beautiful but why are these people not ready to see the beauty in them? Even the Western media has dark complexioned women for their tvs and films.
These stereotypes are created by the media which affects our society so much so that for many Indian families, being fair is advantageous and considered marketable and being dark complexioned is like a jinx and brandes as "hopless case".
This reality has set in me because I am a dark complexioned Indian women who looks pretty because I have beautiful eyes. I am not self praising myself, but many..many..many people have told me this and I know this is my asset. BUT...mind you. I can't get married mainly because according to my Indian community, I am dark complexioned and it would be difficult for me to get a suitable match. Sometimes I cannot find a reason to why I was ever born this way. Majority of the men go for fair complexioned Indian women. One of the criteria they lay for finding a suitable match is for their bride to be fair complexioned. Surprisingly, somehow they lead a happily married life with the women of their choice because they cherish thier wifes just because they got what they wanted. What if the "fair" women has a "dark" character? Oh...it's ok...such characters can be adjusted. He'd rather live in misery then to leave her because his friends and family have considered him to be lucky because his wife is fair and pretty. Of course, he feels proud to walk with her beside him. This is life. It's bitter but it happens.
Even average people like me are left on the shelf and have to succumb to comments because of my dark complexion. I'm not materialistic, I'm not possessive but I yearn for love and to be cared for, to be kissed, to be held and to do things together with my partner, but guess this will never happen because who cares what you want? These men only care how you look.
When will there be a time when people appreciate the inner beauty in you? This would be a time where I will discard all my make up and walk freely without wanting to look pretty. This will be a time when I am the most confident person in the whole wide world. This will be a time when you have friends for not how you look but for what you are.
