Finally I got to meet St**E from Australia through my aunt and her sister. BUT there is a problem! I'm 42 and he is 57. I'm petite and he is bigger than me (not huge though).
The reason I agreed to be introduced to him was mainly because both my aunt and her sis strongly recomended St**E as they told me that he is a nice man. If it was some others, I would have flatly refused this meeting. I just needed a companion to do things together with and there was no other motive behind this meet up.
My First Impression of St**E
Well, he looked good for me. Does not look old for his age. He was quiet throughout. St**ve then brought me aside and asked me how old I was. I then told him my age and he admitted that he was married once and has a 30 year old daughter and two grandchildren. I too told him about my past marriage (I could have told him in a flippant manner as it happened 13 years ago). To this, he told me that I must have enjoyed my marriage a lot. I told him that I had a terrible time during the whole duration of my marriage as it was arranged and am not going to have another arranged marriage again. I did not want to dwell too much on my past marriage as it will still upset me and I will get emotional.
I did not mind him having a daughter and grandchildren as his daughter can be my friend.
I was impressed with St**e because he did not consume alchohol. But he was quiet throughout and it was "J" and her hubby who sounded encouraging and enthusiastic the whole time. What lovely people, I thought, as they were trying very hard to pair both of us up.
At Shangrila St**E and I talked for only a short while on what he does during his free time. What impressed me most was when he mentioned doing social work when he is free.
I did not mind the age gap as I wanted to give it a try as I always wanted to get to know someone older as I will be able to receive good advice from him on many things.
Before we left, aunt and "j" asked me to call him and talk to him to get to know him. I did just that the next day on 24 Jan. I messaged "J" to ask St**E to call me when he is free (messaged in the morning) but there was no response the whole day. I became suspicious. I called her at 6pm and my call went unanswered. Aunt "J" returned my call at about 8pm on 24 Jan but I was not around to answer the call and was too tired to call her back and there were no calls from her after that. As usual, I had a gut feeling that something was not right as it was unusual of aunt "J" to ignore my message and call.
I then called her at 5pm the next day on 25 Jan to ask St**E to call me in the evening. Aunt "J" sounded hesitant but she agreed and he called me at about 9pm. He told me that he is uncomfortable with the huge age gap and he does not think it will work out. I told him that I do not mind but he told me that the age gap between me and his daughter is close.
I have to respect his wishes and told him that we can still be friends. He told me somethings after that but my mind just went blank and I had to end the conversation quickly as prolonging the conversation will not get anywhere, especially when only one side is willing to try.
Why didn't aunt tell me earlier when she knew St**e's decision. At least I could have been prepared.
I respect St**E for the decision as he is not the usual "chee koh pek" man we meet in Singapore. I still wonder why aunt "J" did not even msg me earlier on Mon to let me know St**E's decision so that I would be prepared. They all acted as if they did not know anything.
It's not anyone's fault and such experience is nothing new to me. What is surprising is that I am definitely not ugly but such things are happening to me always.
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